‘Have You Had The Talk?’: Breaking The Silence

Posted at 7:42 PM, Feb 13, 2014
and last updated 2014-02-13 23:04:32-05

GRAND RAPIDS, Mich. (Feb. 13, 2014) — Mary and Tom Haarman blended their families from previous marriages 21 years ago; their children are now grown with families of their own.

They recently decided it was time to finally bring up the conversation with their children for the first time talking about their end of life plans.

Sometimes that is the hardest part, just getting the talk started, especially if your children still see you as healthy and active, the topic of death and dying may not be on people’s minds.

“I was a little bit anxious about it when it was first brought up because I wasn’t sure how it all was going to play out, what we were going talk about but then we all sat together and it kind of fell into place,” Tom said.

Researchers say what most people are afraid of is not necessarily the dying process but apparently being a burden to their families, but by bringing up this conversation early it can help alleviate that level of concern or anxiety.

It can also allow parents or loved ones to maintain that level of control in their decision making.

“When you can make some of your own decisions around what you would like or your care or your mass you maintain some control and that’s really important as we age, we lose so much of it,” Mary said.

In fact it can help bring a family together, and as Mary says having a plan in place can be gift to not only them but their children.

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